Ray

About Me

Hello. I'm a sweet person who loves to have fun! I also love to cook and watch movies. Going out on the town is great, or staying inside for a little one on one isn't bad either. I like to workout, kayak in the summer, and snowboard whenever I can, just to let off some steam and laugh at myself when I fall!

Let's see, I love a great red wine, always eat my steak med-rare or med-plus, and I'm funny but not a dork. I'm a sucker for a good movie/play. I love playing golf, making everyone with me laugh, and only wish the best for people. I have a soft spot in my heart for children. If you are in need, I always try my best to help, or show you the way to help yourself. I'm a giver, so when someone gives to me, it's a plus. My pictures only capture the smallest amount of my personality. I'm so much more.

I am single because I refuse to change my relationship status for someone who falls short of what I deserve. Knowing my self-worth/value; I choose to preserve a spot in my heart/life for someone mature enough to understand that loyalty, commitment, and honesty is a priority, not an option. However, living paycheck to paycheck is not an option for me, which is why I live comfortably within my means and have multiple generating incomes, you must share that same successful mindset.

I want to weed out all of the imbeciles who possess a high amount of ignorance when it comes to getting to know someone new. Yes, I may get my share of hate-mail, but at least I know who to block, without responding for potentially wasting my time on them, when that time could be going to someone who deserves it. If I am speaking to you, you shouldn't be asking me about other men on here when the reason you claim to be reaching out, is to get to know me. After we have reached a point where we both agree to be more than pen-pals, then I will take down my profile and you wont even have to ask because you will know.

About My Match

I'm looking for someone who can spoil me better than I have spoiled myself! You'd have to be able to hold my attention w/great conversation. Making me smile is a plus. I need a LTR to come out of this, as I prefer being married, there's so much more that's shared after you reach that stage in a relationship. That's just where I'm at, at this point in my life.

I only date white/European men, so please respect that fact, as it is my preference. I don't relate to words like ebony, chocolate, boo, sister/a, and Nubian Queen etc. These references are insulting to me because I haven't been brought up around people who use them. I don't need you to try to relate to me by using such terms.

I want to share my life and time with someone who is family oriented, educated, and carries some form of etiquette about himself. He needs to be a strong man and knows how to laugh at himself from time to time. I enjoy being with a man who is not afraid of trying new things and has an open mind about life. He must know how to handle a personality like my own. I love a manly man, there's just something about confidence that makes me crave his presence. Intellect is a huge turn on when used accordingly. Just remember, while I seem to ask for so much, I give with equal reciprocity.

Please don't contact me if you have a picture on your profile standing next to a (poorly cropped out) ex! It shows that you are holding on to a picture of your ex, (which you may still be emotionally attached to), that should be in a shoebox/on a flash-drive if you are over that relationship and wanting to start something new. The new person in your life doesn't want the first image of you to be with someone you use to be in love/slept with. Show your future heart that you are available without any past baggage by simply taking a picture of yourself alone, being funny, or having a good time with friends or family. I know most men wouldn't think of this, but it matters and you could be missing out on something beautiful because of a photo. Furthermore, if you are separated, I appreciate the honesty, but I am not interested. If we were to meet today, went nuts for each other, and wanted to get married tomorrow, that excitement would be short lived. Clear your plate before you start looking for the next best thing.