Ric

About Me

Hello to all you wonderful ladies! I would like the opportunity to thank you for taking the time to look at and read my profile. I shall be withdrawling from Rosebrides shortly as I have met a beautiful person, and we have agreed to take the time to see where it leads.
I have made some of the most beautiful friends in here as well, I mean beautiful in heart first, as well as looks, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but a beautiful heart always shines with its own light.
I want to apologise to those whom I haven't got back to yet, and to hope that everyone finds someone close to their heart to share their life with.
Kind regards to to all the beautiful hearts out there.
Ric.

I have found the need for a more in-depth profile on here so I will try to list topics by subheading. Some of those topics may be detailed, some personal, and some uncomfortable, but I hope it will enable you ladies and make it easier to make a decision and if necessary, eliminate me from your list. (But I really hope I can make it through to someones list!)
So, make yourselves comfortable in your chair, grab a coffee or your favorite bottle of wine and strap in for a long read! I'm not joking, it may take a bit. If it helps, imagine yourself having a deep personal conversation with an intimate friend. ;-)

Before I even get that far, I need to say some important things here, right at the start. But I would like to please ask you to read all the way to the end!!!
Because it will help everyone avoid any misunderstandings later. Sadly, it may even turn my perfect match away... but I hope by being genuinely honest right from the start, you will take the time to get to know me first!

I have dated before, and because of language barriers or misunderstandings I have found the need to be really clear on my situation first. I have lost someone I dated and whom I really cared about once before. I don’t want to do it again.
Or perhaps you can get to know me as a friend first, and that way you can find out for yourself that I will do what I say I will do, that I am trustworthy and a genuinely caring person.

Here in Australia, people can be separate or divorced and still live under the same roof, but in separate rooms. It is more common than what you think. This may be strange to other cultures who are not western in origin. It usually happens because houses are not cheap in Australia and neither is rent.
This is the case with me at the moment and will be for the next few months. I anticipate that will change by March or April next year. And I will have my own place or I will be organizing my own place.

I am buying the ex’s half of the house, so she will move. Failing that it will be sold and I will buy or build elsewhere.

I have been separated and now divorced for nearly 2 years. I will obtain a legal certificate of divorce in a few weeks, a Judge has ruled on the divorce and it is final.
I have 2 teenage boys. They will be with their Mum, I will have them every second weekend and holidays, but that is flexible and not hard set.

I want to make a lasting future with someone else who will be a part of my life and take the time and trouble to know me. I have met and made wonderful friends through this site but who aren’t a match for one reason or another. Mostly it’s because they have their own complex situations going on or moving to Australia is just too big a step, even if it is a great country to live in.

I am looking for someone who is willing and able to move here and face life’s challenges with me, side by side and as my life partner. I am the marrying kind of guy. I like commitment and I will give everything in my heart to the right girl!
Well, if you made it past that introduction ladies, then you may as well read on! Laugh! You may even need a second bottle of wine by now... 

TOPICS BY ORDER:
• FIRST TOPIC. DATING, THIS SITE!
• GENERAL INTRODUCTION:
• GENERAL HEALTH.
• EDUCATION / WORK:
• OTHER CULTURES:
• RELIGION:
• ROMANCE:
• NOW FOR SOME UNCOMFORTABLE TOPICS.
• SEX:
• CHILDREN:
• RELOCATION AND FAMILY CONTACT:
• FEARS:
• LIKES / DIS-LIKES
• STILL HERE?

FIRST TOPIC. DATING, THIS SITE!
It goes without saying we should be here to find that special person we want to spend the rest of our lives with, I will probably say this a couple of times throughout this write up but, I AM NOT A FLIRT! I am not here to engage in frivolous dating online, I have no intentions to lead anyone on, I would hate to hurt anyone's feelings.
You need to know I will be in conversation with a number of ladies on this site in order to find the best match for me and hopefully for you (yes YOU, you might be that someone!) Having said that, it's part of the reason for doing a fairly complete profile here, so I don't have to explain the same thing individually to each wonderful person who asks if I would like to talk with them. You will find most things about me here and if you think I'm right for you (or mostly right for you! :-) Then please say hello! If I don't respond, please don't be upset with me. I may be talking with someone and trying to see if they are my match first so I don't mislead anyone or have too many people to talk to. This is not a game to me.

GENERAL INTRODUCTION:
I am a divorced Aussie and I have two teenage boys. I have been married for 20 years and have been loyal and faithful the whole way through. I intend to be the same for the next person I'm with. There are genuine reasons for my divorce and they are for private conversation only. I don't smoke and aren't interested in anyone who does. Given up and gotten checked out for your health? Not a problem, just don't go back to it and good on you! I drink occasionally but I NEVER, need to say that again I NEVER get drunk. I know my limits and love my wine, but I've no intentions of letting it ruin my health. I'm a sociable, outgoing person who can do most things I put my mind to. Whether that is building something with my hands, renovating or building a house or working with computers. I'm fairly laid back and easygoing as a person but a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to the things I do for myself. I learned a long time ago not to judge other people and accept them for who they are, I am far from perfect myself but tend to be intensely loyal to those who are my friends and those whom I love. I tend to be a really caring person and enjoy helping out. I am a reasonably fit person who enjoys being active as much as I enjoy a good show in front of the T.V. I'm not a great dancer, even though my profile says I enjoy dancing, I want to learn how to dance well with my future partner in life and enjoy dancing together. As you can see from the pictures I love my dogs, enjoy travel and architecture although I haven't been out of Australia itself much, I have travelled a little internationally, I love to see new places. I prefer to keep things simple and I am good with kids, pretty much having raised my own for the most part, as I have two fantastic, polite and well mannered teenage boys as I have mentioned before (not joking, they are!). They don't need you to be their mum! But you need to like kids and feel you can get along with teenage boys when they are with me.

GENERAL HEALTH.
Yep, I have that! :-) I am in fairly good health, lean and toned I think the general profile says, fairly strong for my size, reasonably fit but would like to do more, just snowed under with too much to do at the moment! I have a life goal of being fit and healthy and provided nothing goes wrong, plan on living a long and active life so I have the ability to do the things I (and hopefully my life partner) enjoy.
Now for some things that may really knock me out of your email list.
You need to know I am deaf in both ears and have cochlear implants to hear. I hear very well and speak perfect english. Phone calls can be a problem but I use a service called captel (captioned telephone) that types your words on a screen just in case I missed what you say. If you speak English, I can hear you on the phone and you will hear me, the phone is just a little slower while I wait for your words to appear. If that seems too hard for anyone, I understand. I text and use google translate on my phone very well!  I would like to think my qualities as a person count for a lot more than a slightly difficult conversation to start with, so I sincerely hope you will read on to the end of my profile before making a decision at least. You might even get to see the good bits! At the worst you might finish that bottle of wine and have a good read!

EDUCATION / WORK:
I find I need to explain what I do a bit better than the general profile allows. I have studied the 'Advanced diploma of Building Design, (Architectural)' This is studied through the technical side rather than the academic side of University and its education level is equivalent to a Bachelor's Degree. I am not an Architect! I am a Building Designer and yes we do more or less the same job as an Architect but with much more technical training but way less artistic and style training than an Architect. We tend to pick up the other stuff as we work in the field. We can and do charge what an Architect does, depends on how fancy the design is. Basically.... I draw houses :-)

OTHER CULTURES:
I love other cultures and ways of doing things as much as I enjoy my own. I'm not racist at all, you are a person, a human being, in that regard I don't care where you come from and you should be treated with respect. Having said that, because I may not understand your culture and how to say things, and also because I am a direct person, I may put my foot in my mouth (general expression for saying the wrong thing or saying it the wrong way) many times while getting to know you. Also I may make a joke that you may not understand or is offensive in your culture, I mean no offence! Please kindly correct me or ask what I mean, I am happy to learn and apologize if I have really said the wrong thing.

RELIGION:
I'm a Christian, to some people that may not mean much today but it does to me. I will not change from being one to please someone else. If I like you and you are something else, I need to respect your beliefs as well. Yes, I am of a belief that uses contraception if we don't want children. God said to 'fill the earth" not overfill it, or go beyond what we're capable of handling or sustaining. I do not use or have religious iconography or statues or wall hangings in the house, if we get together, I would like that respected. Your study materials are not iconography and you have every right to use them as I do, I am a great believer in mutual respect of one another. Cultural styling is entirely different! Please style away! :-)

ROMANCE:
Aha! the good stuff! Well maybe, overall I'm a practical man, but I love a candlelit dinner when it can happen, I enjoy movies and a warm night out (hate the pesky mosquitoes though!) I'm just old enough to know life doesn't always let that happen all the time, but please let it happen with some regularity! I'm an ok cook, you're probably better though, can you teach me to help you so your not tired at the end of making a lovely meal? I cook a very nice BBQ under lights at night (hopefully with out mosquitoes!) with a nice bottle of wine or beer, sometimes I even put it in the food! :-)

NOW FOR SOME UNCOMFORTABLE TOPICS.

SEX:
I will not ask you about it or talk to you about it unless you ask about it specifically in private conversation. I will not ask you for it if and when we meet. Sex is an extremely intimate thing that should only belong to couples that finally agree they are a match. I'm not interested in casual sex, I'm not here for it. I'm here for the one person I can make endless love to for the rest of my life to our mutual satisfaction.
What I will do here is let you know what I think of it and what I like about it, in a general way, without being dirty, rude or disgusting so you understand me better. If it's to much information then please skip this part but it will not contain any graphic descriptions what so ever. It's fairly accurate but general.
I'm a romantic person at heart and tend to love pretty intensely and deeply. That extends to the marriage bed as well. I'm not abusive in anyway, I'm not into rough sex. Vigorous sex, yes if you want it, fun sex, yes please. You want to try every position in the Karma Sutra? I'm game but I don't think I'm flexible enough! Laugh! The one thing I will be honest and direct enough to tell you is I’m not interested in anal sex at all, if you want that, please find someone else. But I can’t think of anything nicer on a day off when there is privacy and not much to do than make slow long love on and off all day. Making love under the stars? Absolutely! But only when privacy and warmth is guaranteed! And before you say Sex Addict! No not really, life gets in the way too much to make me one of them ;-) There is nothing I like more than to please the woman in my life and help her reach her peak. It's a beautiful thing for both in the relationship. So if your not into that particular enjoyment. Or think you wouldn't like it, please DON'T say hello!

CHILDREN:
I have two of my own as mentioned before. It has been agreed that they are with their mum but I have full access to them and have them every second weekend, unless I am away of course! They are teenagers, boys, and I won't post there pics here and you wont see them unless we get to know each other for some time. They have a right to their privacy and protection online as much as anyone else. You don't need to be their mum! They're fairly self sufficient by now. I've been their mum for the most part, and is a part of the issue that contributed to my divorce but not the whole story. I would rather that you simply be their friend to help out if they need it. So you do need to like kids or be ok with them. I am open minded about children, I don’t really want any more of my own at this stage. But if you have your own children I have no problems with that! We can discuss that early on to see if it would work. If you are of child bearing age and actually want babies with me then please don’t say hello, I’m not too old for it but it isn’t a goal of mine anymore. If you are not entirely sure then don’t be scared to chat to me, you have your own reasons that you are considering with children and that should be respected too! I'm good with kids, did I mention I already have two? :-)


RELOCATION AND FAMILY CONTACT:
If you relocate here I think it's important that if you love your family and need to see them, Then you should GO! If time and money allows I will come with you every time. Otherwise I trust you to go on your own as long as your safe and feel safe to do so. I only ask that you don't leave me for long and ALWAYS, please, ALWAYS come back to me. Remember, if our relationship lasts this long, you will be the enduring love of my life, and while you are away I will probably build, make or buy something for when you get back to keep me occupied, because I will miss you!
I may be willing to relocate myself depending on how my circumstances wind up after my children finish secondary school in about 4 years (at the most!), in the mean time we will have time to see how everything will go if we like one another. I will admit I would prefer you to move here, but you may prefer me to move there! Perhaps we should both move somewhere where they speak both our languages? Who knows?

LOYALTY, FIDELITY, FAITHFULNESS:
I expect it of myself, I will expect it of you. For a lifetime. If you want to play around, please don't say Hello!

FEARS:
That someone on here might try to use me just to get a visa to Australia. I have had enough of pain and heartache thank you. Please be a genuine person who wants to be with me for a lifetime in a two way partnership.
Other than that only natural normal fears, you know, stomped on by a dinosaur (just joking!), eaten by a shark or crocodile (not swimming with sharks, I'm game to try that within reason!) Falling out of a perfectly good airplane with no parachute, have a mountain drop on me, I discover I’m not superman and can’t leap over that building because I have gum stuck to my shoe...hahaha ;-)) !!! etc. :-)
Courage doesn’t happen because you’re not afraid, Courage happens because you face your fears and try to overcome them. Even if you fail, you are courageous because you faced your fear and you tried! Don’t let anyone tell you different!

LIKES / DIS-LIKES

I really hate the cold! and I live at the cold end of Australia which is no where near as cold as some of the places you brave ladies live! I will visit the cold and try cold weather activities but I wont live in it! If you love the cold and want to live in it, please don't say hello! :-) . I would like to move up to Queensland or Western Australia, or somewhere warmer! Provided there is employment. But that will take some time before things are resolved here.
I don't mind if you love seafood, but I don't like it, have tried it but can't seem to get my taste buds around it. Otherwise I'm game to try anything once and if I like it will have it again! Well, maybe not cows tongue or monkeys brains and dishes like that though! :-)

STILL HERE? WOW!
I hope you enjoyed the read even if I'm not for you. I will probably add more at a later date if I find something I've overlooked. Now you know about me, you will have some idea of the person I would like to meet but I have included a general description below.
To all you wonderful ladies moving on, I wish you the very best in finding the one for you. To the ones who stay to say hello, please remember what I said right at the top about being able to get back to you. If you want to catch my attention, you can actually write something to me as a greeting rather than just say hello!
In all things be safe in who you date, so take care.
Yours in finding love and happiness. Ric. :-) :-) :-)

About My Match

As terrible as this may sound, my future partner needs to be able to understand some English and be willing to learn it and build on what she knows. Or just be willing to learn English. I am trying to learn Spanish...probably badly! Laugh! So, I know it’s not an easy thing and I understand that, trust me, I am patient! And I use google translate fairly well! But my future partner may not be Spanish, she may speak a different language, and I have found from past experience that good communication is important, so...as long as we can communicate to start with and your willing to try and learn English if you don’t already know it, then half the battle is already won! I will try to learn your language as well, as long as we both know it will take time! :-)
I would like to meet a genuinely happy person, with similar likes to my own, someone fairly fit so we can do activities together like kayaking, swimming, hiking etc. In other words fit enough to enjoy life and is a positive person. They do not have to be a gym junkie! Although that is ok too. But they should have a lifetime perspective of wanting to be in good health. Apart from unavoidable stuff, there is nothing sadder than being unable to do the things you would like just cause we didn't look after ourselves and get out of shape as we get older :-( . I Love children. I have two of my own, please read my profile on children. I also don't mind if the lady is career minded as I would like someone with their own interests as well. The lady must be genuinely interested in cultivating a serious long term relationship. Please no gold diggers or those only interested in money. I want a partner who will love me for who I am, not what I have. I am not a flirt. I am actually looking for that one whom I can spend my life with, but who will also be my companion in all things too. Who will engage in the things I do and who will teach me the things they like to do as well. I do not want a house keeper, I want someone who will keep house with me, I do not want an observer while I do things, I want someone who will learn and do things with me, and myself with them. Who is adventurous and game to try things, time, money, health and circumstance willing. The lady needs to be able and willing to move to Australia for the foreseeable future, and I will keep an open mind about moving after the kids leave school. I would love it if the lady is able to discuss the pros and cons of everything in our relationship openly. Someone who is willing to communicate and compromise calmly so we can make the best decision for both of us!

I am trying to find my way in here as I talk to others and try to find my match. It might be you, or it might not, as long as you don't put too much of your heart into it unless we think it has a good chance to work ok? I am not here to play games or hurt anyone. I am here to find the right one while trying to hurt no one! Talk about threading the eye of the needle, as the saying goes! Hope you are well and enjoying life! Cheers, Ric.