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International Dating Advice

Developing a relationship with a man from another country can be exciting and fulfilling. International dating has endless possibilities and using a Web site like RoseBrides.com helps you connect with men you otherwise wouldn’t be able to know.

Everyone knows that sometimes dating is complicated. When you introduce a different country into the mix it could get more complicated. But while language and cultural differences can pose problems, you can mitigate the difficulties by taking the time to learn as much as you can about your match before you decide to meet and start dating. Gaining an understanding of his culture can smooth the path. Beginning to learn his language can also ease the process – and you’ll benefit from broadening your horizons regardless of where the relationship goes.

Understanding his culture will help prepare you for the relationship you may end up in. As you learn about it, think about whether you’d be willing to move to his country to be with him. Try to envision the issues the two of you may face. Do you have different religions or political views? By getting to know as much about him as possible and considering a broad range of issues before the relationship progresses too far, you may avoid problems down the road.

The key thing is to always be honest in your profile and correspondence. Then, when you’re ready to meet face-to-face, there’s nothing to be nervous about. If you have presented yourself honestly, chances are he will continue to pursue you after you’ve met. These tips will help you win him over:

Take the time to write an engaging profile

Taking the time to write an engaging profile suggests that you are serious about finding the right match. When a member clicks through from your photo to your profile, he’s hoping to learn enough about you to decide if you might be right for him. Tell some interesting facts about yourself and what you’re looking for in a mate – and let your personality shine. Not saying much in your profile makes it easier to click away and move on to the next profile. But don’t write too much either – a few paragraphs is fine; leave some topics to discuss as you’re getting to know each other.

Above all be honest and stay positive. Be descriptive about your lifestyle and what’s important to you in a relationship; explain what makes you unique. When you put lots of specific examples in your profile, you make it easier for someone to read it and say, "Wow, me too!"

Make connections

After you’ve set up your profile, don’t just sit back and wait for men to take the first step. Look at different profiles and if you see one you like, click “Say Hello” to show you are interested. Taking this kind of initiative could help you find your match more quickly. Often, writing a personalized message based on something you’ve read in his profile is better than using the “Say Hello” feature because it shows you’ve spent time reading the profile, which might induce him to respond. You might also send an extra photo that isn’t on your profile to make him feel special.

Staying active and conducting your own searches will increase your visibility in others’ searches. Use the “My Matches” options or general searches to find someone you may be compatible with.

Be sure to log in daily because inclusion of your profile in our lists is based on the date of your last login. Check “New Members,” “New Photo” and “Active Recently” so you can be the first to contact an interesting man who comes up – and check your “New Matches” regularly.

Please remember: do not take it personally if someone does not respond to you – in the same way, it’s likely you will not respond to every man who contacts you. Sometimes people who use dating sites are simply curious and not serious. It’s all a matter of mutual chemistry, which is often difficult to get right. The more people you are in touch with the better your chances for finding someone. If a member contacts you and you’re not interested, consider sending a polite message of “thanks, but I’m not interested.”

Trial and error

It’s very possible that the first few men you link up with won’t be right for you. You may start chatting with someone only to find he suddenly stops corresponding with you. Or at some point you may decide that someone isn’t the man you are looking for. This is totally fine and one of the advantages of online dating. Just as in real life, there’s no need to rush things.

Feel free to be as selective as you wish. It’s important to feel comfortable with someone – and you should follow your instincts over the course of your correspondence and conversations. If you feel it’s not going to work out, don’t hesitate to end the talking. Move on so you can spend time finding a better match. And remember to report a member who says or does something that worries you.

Attitudes about how long it may take to make a decision to marry

If you find someone who sparks your interest, you may find that you differ in your attitudes and time frames for getting to know each other well enough to marry. Try to get a sense of whether the man prefers to date casually before getting married and having children. Some men prefer long courtships, others shorter ones, so be sure you’re ok with the approach.

Stay in contact

Maintaining regular contact will smooth the process of getting to know each other; having long conversations every once in a while tends not to work so well. You can use e-mail, Skype and Instant Messenger. When you get to the point when you’re comfortable revealing your home address, you could also send him a small gift or letter by mail or digital gifts such as photos or music to show he’s on your mind. You can find cute songs and videos on YouTube.com.

Take it slow and wait awhile before you discuss serious matters

Obviously you want to know as much as possible about your match, but it’s not a good idea to ask too many questions right away. Slow but steady usually works best. Reveal interesting facts over time as you’re getting to know each other. This can add to the excitement of the experience.

If your relationship begins to get serious, you should start discussing issues such as whether you want children or not and if he plans to marry you and bring you to his country. Be clear about expectations for your family role: do you plan on being a housewife or working outside the home? It’s important to put everything out in the open so you can continue to see how well matched you are.

If it gets serious

If you meet your match and it does get serious, that’s great. Just be sure the proper paperwork is in order before you move to a different country. Knowing about that country’s culture, visa requirements and other immigration information are very important before you take the next step – and you should confirm the facts for yourself.

It takes time and effort, but you too can find the perfect partner through international dating!